Anyone who has been in the job market these days will tell you: it sucks.  If they don’t think it sucks, then they’re lying to you or themselves.  With the short days of winter passing, it’s hard not to get downright depressed.  In fact, I do.  Sometimes I don’t want to get out of bed.  I don’t want to write more cover letters, I don’t want to go volunteer because I know it won’t get me a job; I don’t want to go exercise, even see people who love me and support me (the emotional cheerleading is just too much sometimes.)  But something I have found that I do want to do is yoga.  Unlike spin class or boot camp, which I know I should go to and drag myself to, yoga is a treat. 

So I started going.  And somewhere between downward facing dog and warrior II, I found gratitude.  Gratitude for, above all else, my physical health and the present moment.  Gratitude that I live with the man I love, in a city we love, and we are creating a life for ourselves that isn’t about money or status.  Gratitude that oranges are in season and inexpensive right now; gratitude that spring is just around the corner.  That the days are getting longer and I’m taking better care of myself. 

I am a genuinely lucky person, not just because I come from a life of privilege which has, in many ways, led to my being well-educated, debt-free, and happily married.  I could tell you that I got into law school through my own hard work, which I did; but I also went to law school because my parents pushed me to it.  I could be angry about that, in this economy, but instead, I choose to be grateful. 

I remind myself, as I shift from pose to pose, that today is short and life is long.  That I am young, and fortunate, and I may very well not find a job today, or tomorrow, or next month.  It could take me awhile to find something.  And so my career isn’t, and can’t be, what defines me today, or tomorrow, or next month.  I am who I am, regardless of where my paychecks come from, when they come at all.  I am a lawyer, regardless of whether I’m “practicing” or not.  I am also a wife, a hockey player, a long-distance runner.  I’m an amateur photographer and a wanna-be writer.  I’m a sister and a daughter and even still a granddaughter.  I’m crafty, thoughtful, and smart.  I am grateful for all of these things, and my ability to be these things.  And above all, I’m grateful that today gives me the chance to try to be better at these things, and strive, like I strive to sink deeper into a twist or let my heart come forward more, to simly do more, be more. 




Filed under Exercise and Fitness, Job Search, Marriage, Unemployed, Volunteering

2 responses to “Gratitude

  1. That yoga has given you an incredible perspective. I feel so much for you and your job situation, and I can only imagine how difficult it must be to keep going. I was definitely in the same slump when I was unemployed. But maintaining a grateful perspective on life will really help get you to where you want to go and do. I have confidence in you.

  2. I loved this post. I’ve had similar realizations that even though I’m not satisfied with where things are right now, that doesn’t mean I can’t be happy and content with what I do have going for me. I think it’s a hard lesson to learn ” you’re not what you do for a living” but it’s a lesson I’m glad that I’m learning early in life and not when I’m 50 and going through something similar. Sounds like you’re in the same place too.

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